For our project, our group will be doing the topic on “Managing Emotions”. We decided to explore this topic as managing emotions is crucial in making choices. We would often lose control to our emotion and let our emotion pick the choice rather than stepping back into deciding on the right course of action before coming to a conclusion. Every now and then, people lose control but do not know how to manage them, we hope that everyone can learn from this project on how to manage their emotions.
The project showcase a National Serviceman Full-Time (NSF) in his training to become an officer. However, his aunt, who has been taking care of him since childhood like an immediate family member, has just passed away. He wanted to attend his aunt’s funeral but is unable to do so as his aunt is not a part of his immediate family and would not be granted a compassionate leave. As such, he began to think about leaving the camp and go Absence WithOut Leave (AWOL). AWOL is a very serious offence as it is considered that the person abandons his country’s defence and is a disgraceful behaviour in war time. Committing such an offence would no doubt be sent into the Detention Barracks (DB) and losing his opportunity to become an officer.
Due to being very closed with his aunt, he wanted to leave the camp to attend the funeral, his emotions have lead this decision. His decision to AWOL to attend his aunt funeral could lead to an undesirable or disastrous outcome on his future or even an eternal regret.
Objective of Study
As humans, we know that emotions can go out of control easily. This emotion can stem from stress, personal issue, mood, and we would want to tackle how an individual should manage themselves from their emotion to gain more self-awareness of what they are doing as they feel emotions.
Potential Solution / Implementation for Problem Solution
We will be implementing the 6-seconds EQ model to our project’s problem. “To put emotional intelligence into action, you work to become more aware (noticing what you do), more intentional (doing what you mean), and more purposeful (doing it for a reason).” (Six Seconds, 2007). This model uses 3 steps to guides people into having better emotional management by: Know Yourself – increase self-awareness, Choose Yourself – more intentional and less volatile, Give Yourself – more sense of purpose.
We will apply this model for the NSF as he follows the process of this EQ model to make more self-aware, intentional and purposeful decision.
Data Collection/ Research Method
Our group has a data collection on all male who has been an NSF or is an NSF, and a research on people who have successfully managed their emotion without losing control.
The data collection covers how everyone responds to our problem when they are put into the NSF’s shoes and what, how and why they would have done.
We would like to show people that they can manage their emotion better and apply the 6 seconds’s EQ model to their everyday emotional conflict, they would also be more self-aware, more intentional and more purposeful when they make a decision.
It is easy to let the emotion do the job for making decisions, it might be what everyone would want in the heat of the moment, but what about in the future? As people look back at what they have done, would they have regretted it, or would they have rather not done it, or they would want to go back and redo their decision? By letting the emotions take control, will it solve the conflict between people? Emotion is a strong tool, however, it has to be used wisely, it can allow people to influence others into feeling strong, good or even super, but it can also lead to greater frustrations, lack of understanding, and miss the fundamental of thinking logically.
It is important to communicate well to make an improvement with the decision made with the EQ model, putting it into action in everyday life. It is a start to know yourself, understanding and identifies one’s own behaviour; Choose yourself, evaluating one’s choices; Give yourself, one’s sense of purpose in making that choice.
Six Seconds (2007). EQ-in-Action – The Six Seconds Model. Retrieve from: http://www.6seconds.org/2007/08/18/eq-in-action-the-six-seconds-model/